Leadership Inspirations Activities

This or That

Choose between “this” or “that” to get to know your group


10 minutes

Team Stage


Type Of Activity

Icebreaker, Mixer





This activity is a great way for particularly large groups to get to know a little about each other. Participants must make a choice between two options presented to them by the facilitator and show their choice by moving to one side of the room or the other.



  • Prepare a variety of statements for participants to choose between “this” and “that”. For example:
    • Cats or dogs
    • Books or movies
    • Sweet or salty
    • Sun or snow
  • You will need enough space for participants to move around freely.
  • Define a middle boundary line in this space.


  • The facilitator will read aloud two options.
  • The facilitator will also indicate which side of the room is for what option.
  • Participants will have to make a choice between the two – do they prefer “this” or “that”?
  • Once they have decided, they will move to the appropriate side of the room.
  • They should look around at who is standing with them and who is standing on the other side before the facilitator reads the next statement.
  • Play continues in this way for as long as you’d like. Try adding in one of the Variations for more involved play.


  • Invite participants to make up their own “this” or “that” options.
  • Focus the “this” or “that” options around a specific topic, like leadership:
    • Leaders speak / leaders listen
    • Leaders lead / leaders follow
    • Leaders get things done / Leaders connect people
    • Leaders take responsibility / Leaders share responsibility
    • Leaders teach / Leaders learn
    • Leaders prepare and plan / Leaders react and respond
    • Leaders are born / Leaders are made
    • Leaders serve their goals / leaders serve their people
  • Prepare Dyad questions and once participants have settled on their “side” have them respond to questions with someone close by.
  • For a higher risk version of this activity try “Always, Sometimes, Never


  • What was the goal of this activity?
  • Did your group do well? What could have improved?
  • How did your group make decisions? Was it effective or ineffective?
  • How did your group manage conflict that arose?
So What?


  • When has your group worked well together in the past? When have they not worked well together?
  • When has (something that happened in the activity) happened in the past with your group?
  • What habits or actions make a successful or effective team? What are your group’s opportunities for growth when working together?
Now What?
  • What does this activity tell you about the strengths of your group? The areas for improvement?
  • What’s one commitment each person can make?
  • What are three lessons the group has learned that they can continue to work on?
  • How can we implement these lessons in our school/organization?
  • What can you do differently moving forward?