Leadership Inspirations Activities

Similarities And Differences

Discover similarities and differences between members of a group


10-20 minutes

Team Stage


Type Of Activity

Icebreaker, Mixer, Bonding Activity


Paper, Pens Or Pencils



Use this activity to encourage networking within a group. It can be used to help break the ice or as a more meaningful bonding activity.


  • Give each person a paper and a pen or pencil to write with.


  • Instruct participants to divide their paper into three columns and label them Name, Similarity, and Difference.
  • Then give them time to mingle and meet with each other.
  • For each person they should try to find out something they have in common and something that is different between them.
  • They want to try to do this for as many people as possible in the time given (10-20 minutes).
  • They cannot be obvious things like, “We have different color hair” or “I’m short and they are tall”. They should work to start conversations and discover meaningful things about people.
  • If you have time at the end, invite people to share some of their discoveries with the whole group.


  • Consider having them get into groups of 4-5 and come up with three similarities and three differences among them.
  • You can replace Similarities and Differences with any prompts that you would like that can help groups get to know each other better, get creative and have fun with it!


  • What was the goal of this activity?
  • Did your group do well? What could have improved?
  • How did your group make decisions? Was it effective or ineffective?
  • How did your group manage conflict that arose?
So What?

Inclusion and Involvement

  • What does it mean to be inclusive or exclusive?
  • What did we do as a group that was inclusive? That was exclusive/not inclusive?
  • Why is inclusion and involvement important for our group?

Group Dynamics

  • What are the traits that make someone successful on this team? What are the traits that make someone unsuccessful on this team?
  • What motivates our group?
  • How does our group dynamic affect the way we get work done?

Project Planning

  • What has worked in other projects you have done? How have you dealt with setbacks?
  • How do you connect with the process of planning? Do you like it/not like it? How does this impact you/your group?
  • How do we manage our time? How does that affect our ability to complete our projects?
Now What?
  • What does this activity tell you about the strengths of your group? The areas for improvement?
  • What’s one commitment each person can make?
  • What are three lessons the group has learned that they can continue to work on?
  • How can we implement these lessons in our school/organization?
  • What can you do differently moving forward?