Leadership Inspirations Activities

Fear Eulogy

Everyone fears something, but let’s lay those fears to rest


30-45 minutes

Team Stage

Storming, Norming, Performing

Type Of Activity

Bonding Activity


Paper, pens or pencils



Reflect on the things that you fear in your life. Then let’s work on overcoming those fears to help the group succeed.



  • You may want to ask the group to take a few deep breaths to get in the right mindset for the activity.
  • Safety: If you work with minors and are a mandated reporter, be aware that these types of activities can bring up issues such as abuse or suspected abuse, suicide or self-harm, neglect, etc.


  • Ask the group to define what the word “fear” means. Follow up questions to ask:
    • Where do fears come from?
    • What do fears do to us?
  • Ask participants to identify their fears by writing a small list.
  • Then, ask the group to define what a eulogy is and why we have/use them.
  • Tell the participants to write a eulogy for one of the fears from their list. The eulogy will have four parts.
    • How has it hindered you in the past?
    • How are you taking charge now?
    • How will you “put it to rest” and not let it take over?
    • How will that affect you moving forward?
  • Allow every participant the chance to share their eulogy. You can share in partners, small groups, or the large group depending on how comfortable your group is with each other.


  • Check out Hopes and Fears as a quick check-in activity.
  • This is a very high-risk activity. You can change the name from “fear eulogy” to “letter to my fear”. This would help to frame the conversation differently so it doesn’t sound too morbid.


  • What was the goal of this activity?
  • Did your group do well? What could have improved?
  • How did your group make decisions? Was it effective or ineffective?
  • How did your group manage conflict that arose?
So What?


  • Are we the only ones that define our purpose? What or who influences our purpose?
  • How do we communicate our purpose to new members or people outside of our group?
  • Why is it important that we all understand the purpose of our group/activity/etc.?

Inclusion & Involvement

  • What does it mean to be inclusive or exclusive?
  • What did we do as a group that was inclusive? That was exclusive/not inclusive?
  • Why is inclusion and involvement important for our group?


  • When has your group worked well together in the past? When have they not worked well together?
  • When has (something that happened in the activity) happened in the past with your group?
  • What habits or actions make a successful or effective team? What are your group’s opportunities for growth when working together?
Now What?
  • What does this activity tell you about the strengths of your group? The areas for improvement?
  • What’s one commitment each person can make?
  • What are three lessons the group has learned that they can continue to work on?
  • How can we implement these lessons in our school/organization?
  • What can you do differently moving forward?