Leadership Inspirations Activities

I Wish My Team Knew…

Gain a better understanding of the members of your group


30-45 minutes

Team Stage

Norming, Performing

Type Of Activity

Bonding Activity


Post its or index cards of the same color, pens or pencils



This activity allows group members to share anonymously and in a safe space, the things that they wish their team knew. It is a great way to get to know everyone in the group on a much deeper level.



  • This activity encourages higher-risk courageous conversations. It is important to set groundrules (like confidentiality) for the group to follow during this activity. To change the energy of the group, you can also ask participants to take a deep breath and think about the things that they would like to share.
  • Safety: This activity is higher risk and asks participants to be vulnerable and trusting with each other (and the facilitators). Assure participants to only share what they feel comfortable sharing with others and remind the groups to be respectful of each other while sharing.
  • Facilitator Note: If you work with minors and are a mandated reporter, be aware that these types of activities can bring up issues such as abuse or suspected abuse, suicide or self harm, neglect, etc.


  • Gather your group into a circle and give every participant a sticky note or index card and pen.
  • To start this activity, inform participants that it will be a completely anonymous and silent activity. Encourage participants to step outside of their comfort zones, but to be cognizant of their danger zones.
  • Ask the group to complete the sentence ‘I wish my team knew…” on their notecards. They should not write their name as this activity is anonymous. Give participants time to complete the sentence however they want, and as many times as they want.
  • Once they are done, have participants fold their index cards in half to keep their answer private and give them to the facilitator.
  • Mix up the pieces of paper and pass them back out so that each participant has someone else’s answer.
  • Let students know that it is okay if they get their own, they don’t need to tell anyone.
  • Ask a volunteer to begin by sharing what is on their index card. Before the volunteer shares, remind group members to be respectful of what is read out loud.
  • Go around the circle until everyone has had a chance to share.
  • Before closing the activity, give participants time to process and reflect about everything they just heard.



  • What was the goal of this activity?
  • Did your group do well? What could have improved?
  • How did your group make decisions? Was it effective or ineffective?
  • How did your group manage conflict that arose?
So What?


  • Are we the only ones that define our purpose? What or who influences our purpose?
  • How do we communicate our purpose to new members or people outside of our group?
  • Why is it important that we all understand the purpose of our group/activity/etc.?

Inclusion & Involvement

  • What does it mean to be inclusive or exclusive?
  • What did we do as a group that was inclusive? That was exclusive/not inclusive?
  • Why is inclusion and involvement important for our group?


  • When has your group worked well together in the past? When have they not worked well together?
  • When has (something that happened in the activity) happened in the past with your group?
  • What habits or actions make a successful or effective team? What are your group’s opportunities for growth when working together?
Now What?
  • What does this activity tell you about the strengths of your group? The areas for improvement?
  • What’s one commitment each person can make?
  • What are three lessons the group has learned that they can continue to work on?
  • How can we implement these lessons in our school/organization?
  • What can you do differently moving forward?